Welcome to my crazy life!

my crazy life in review

Of course while I’ve been dealing with my crazy landlord and my poor sick kiddo I’ve still had to work and try to pay the bills. Luckily I love both of my jobs!

what i’m doing on tots2tweens right now:

Pinned it…Made it! Me? No…I don’t really do crafty stuff. But other people make the stuff they pin, and I write about it.

Public School Directory: We spent the past few weeks at Tots2Tweens compiling this directory of every public school in our coverage area (Maryland, Virginia, DC, PA) including supply lists and school calendars. Everything you need for back to school all in one place.

Are you a Tots2Tweens Mom? You should be!

what i’m doing with jamberry right now

July has been kind of a slow month for me Jamberry wise with the move and all but I did have one really great party. The theme was Cocktails, Cupcakes and Jamberry. Everyone had a blast and the pina colada cupcakes and the strawberry coconut margaritas probably didn’t hurt.

what i’m doing in my crazy life as a single mom right now

Boo Boo’s birthday dinner at Chick-fil-A

our formerly favorite fast food restaurant. It can no longer be my pleasure to enjoy your yummy chicken, clean play area and friendly staff.

Bye Bye, Chick-fil-A, I enjoyed our love affair while it lasted. It’s a shame you had to go and ruin such a good thing.

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Happy All About Boo Boo Day!

Having Boo Boo’s birthday weekend fall on Father’s Day weekend (every year) is kind of a mixed blessing. I worry that as he gets older it will mean 2 holidays in 1 that he will have to experience knowing his father couldn’t be bothered. The idea of my son hurting or feeling sad on his special day breaks my heart. But, for now at least, his birthday is a great way to distract from the whole Father’s Day thing. I declared this weekend the ‘All about Boo Boo Weekend’ and we really did have an amazing time.

Saturday we went to the petting zoo with my dad, sister, niece and nephew. All the kids had a blast. Here they are on the hay ride with their Pop Pop. Nothing makes me happier than seeing Boo Boo happy. And as long as he is with his Pop Pop he is happy!

Today we had a family cooking as Boo Boo’s birthday party. I thought about doing a whole party with all the kids from his daycare and all of that but I decided it would really be throwing money away. He has no clue that it’s his birthday and really he could care less. My guess is that he enjoyed this day with his family much more than he would have at a big party anyway. I know I sure did. 

My sister came up from NC with her 3 kids so we were able to have all of the kids and grandkids together which doesn’t happen very often. The one thing I regret about today is that I didn’t take much time to tell my Dad how much I love and appreciate him. He is the kind of father that deserves the title and I am so grateful to him for that.  Life has not always been easy for my dad but he has always done whatever it took to take care of his family and be the best dad he could possibly be for us. He’s continuing that now by being the best Grandfather he can be. Boo Boo and I are both so lucky to have him.

Why I’m donating to the Autism Society

It seems like everyone these days knows someone affected by Autism Spectrum Disorder. There was a period not very long ago when we feared my Boo Boo may have a mild version of ASD. It turns out he does not. He does have some developmental delays and some sensory processing issues but we are certain at this point that he does not have autism.

I am so grateful to Boo Boo’s pediatrician for encouraging me to have Caelum evaluated and for trying to get to the bottom of his delays. There are too many stories I hear every day about another pediatrician who brushed off a parent’s concern about his or her child’s development. I don’t believe these doctors and professionals mean any harm to their patients. I believe they truly just are not educated or up-to-date on all of the research regarding Autism Spectrum Disorder. By being so uninformed, they do such a great disservice to their patients.

Autism is a disorder that is NOT a life sentence. With proper treatment and therapies, children with autism can be incredibly successful.  They can thrive in school, make friends, succeed academically. They can grow into accomplished, well adjusted adults. But the key is early intervention. According to the Autism Society, “Autism is treatable. Children do not “outgrow” autism, but studies show that early diagnosis and intervention lead to significantly improved outcomes.”

The Autism Society, the nation’s leading grassroots autism organization, exists to improve the lives of all affected by autism. By increasing public awareness about the day-to-day issues faced by people on the spectrum, advocating for appropriate services for individuals across the lifespan, and providing the latest information regarding treatment, education, research and advocacy, the Autism Society is.

About Donations:

Jamberry donates $2 from the sale of every Autism Awareness shield purchased to the Autism Society. I will match Jamberry’s donation for additional $2 from the sale of every Autism Awareness shield purchased through my website.

These donations goes directly to the Autism Society’s efforts to increase awareness and change how autism is treated. Each day, families desperate for guidance, local support and service options turn to the Autism Society. Your contribution allows the Autism Society to be there for those who need their support – especially during this time of massive government cuts in services.

Single mom (not) dating

I’ve been on three dates in three and a half  years. And no second dates. The last one was over a year ago and that’s just fine with me. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t enjoy  being alone. Actually, I think the only thing really missing in my life right now is a partner to share it with. But I’m not doing anything about finding that someone and I have no plans to, at least for the time being.

Prior to my life as a mommy, dating was sort of the center of my world. Pretty much everything I did revolved around meeting a guy, going on dates and starting relationships (or ending them.)

I went on dinner dates, movie dates, drinks dates, concert dates…I even went away for weekends with dates. It took a LOT of time and energy. A bad date or blow-off by a guy I really liked could devastate me. Emotionally, dating was exhausting.  I spent a lot of my time thinking about and analyzing my relationships wondering if this guy might be ‘the one’ or what I did that made that guy not like me back. My world revolved around my dating.

Now I go on park dates, pizza dates, zoo dates, and last week I even went on a beach date for the weekend. I’m trying to get tickets to see the Wiggles in concert this summer. All of my time and energy is spent on Boo Boo. Sometimes my love for him feels so strong I think my heart might burst. Talk about emotionally exhausting. I spend a lot of my time thinking about all the things I need to do to take care of him and wondering if I’m being a good enough mom to him. My Boo Boo is my world.

Attempting to date as a single mom has so many layers to work through just the thought kind of exhausts me. And I don’t have time to be exhausted. My biggest fear is that I will be the kind of mother who makes the decision to put a man before my son. It happens so often it almost feels inevitable. Society certainly expects me to be out living it up while my son is home with Grandma. If my life were a book or movie, I’d marry a man who loved me but was jealous of my relationship with my son and would do anything to come between us. My vow is to NEVER let anything or anyone come between me and my Boo Boo.

When I found out I was (unexpectedly) pregnant, my world changed in an instant. Every thought, every decision immediately became about his needs first, mine second (before I even knew he  was a HE.) Today I am a single mother because three and a half years ago I made the most difficult decision of my life, to leave my son’s father and embark on this journey alone. I signed us both up for this life and now it’s my job to make sure it’s a good one. I remind myself of that every single day.

Not dating is not a sacrifice. It’s just what I signed up for. Boo Boo deserves a mommy who is one hundred percent emotionally invested in him. I only have so much emotional energy to give and dating would require me to take some of it away from Boo Boo and give it to someone else. That’s just not something I’m willing to do, at least for the time being.

As he gets older,  it will get easier (or so everyone tells me.) Boo Boo will become more self sufficient and require less of my time and energy. Maybe then I’ll have a just enough left over to try and share it with someone else. But for now, I’ve found my partner. All my dates are with Boo Boo, and that’s just fine with me.

 

Update: 1 Year Later

Welcome to my crazy life!

my crazy life in review

It’s been a crazy few weeks! I started my new job as the content manager of tots2tweens.com, I signed on to be a Jamberry Independent Consultant, I’m trying to keep up with my work at Shoots for a Cure and oh yeah…trying to spend time with my Boo Boo! His 3rd birthday is coming up (in 2 weeks, OMG!!!) and I need to plan a party, figure out what gifts I want to buy him, find time to make him a cake…oh my brain hurts thinking about it all.

So in addition to writing about my crazy life, I’d love to share with you all some of what I do elsewhere.

what i’m doing on tots2tweens right now:

12 Weeks of Summer – My Summer Fun List

Fairs, Festivals, Carnivals and More!

Tots2Tweens wants to hear from you!!!
You can submit recipes, crafts, articles, or just introduce yourself for my Mom of the Week column.

what i’m doing with jamberry right now

Using Pinterest to promote my new business

Trying to gain more followers for my business FB Page

Now Booking Parties through the end of Summer!!!

what i’m doing in my crazy life as a single mom right now

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Attending one of my oldest friends’ wedding in Rehoboth Beach, DE

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Boo Boo’s first ride on the Boardwalk!